Friday, August 08, 2008

What Is There To Say?

About a year and a half ago I experienced the loss of someone I was very close to. Many people were very supportive of me during that time. Since then, I've experienced other losses and I've learned a great deal, some through the support of others and some in the absence of that support.
Now one of the friends who was so supportive during my time of grief is mourning a loss of her own. And despite everything I've read, everything I know about loss, and the countless acts of care and concern I've experienced from others, I do not know what to do or say. I cannot think of anything that would do justice to the kind of friendship she has shown me in my times of need. I cannot think of anything that can for one second diminish the helpless, empty pain of her loss.
There is hope for the future. And that does not change the fact that now is hard.

2 comments:

Dianne Adams said...

I experienced a loss three years ago that has affected me greatly. I can't remember very many words but I can remember the ones that were there. Sometimes the presence of a friend means as much or more than words.

LeAnne Benfield Martin said...

Well said, Nancy.